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“Oh Lord, Please Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood…”

I was a little taken aback the other day when I received an e-mail from a potential caller who was concerned about being humiliated.  She’s a cross-dresser and was worried that if she called me I’d humiliate her because of that!  Obviously, in spite of all the blogs I’ve written, I’ve failed to make myself clear, so I’ll try to rectify that now.

  • I enjoy humiliating a submissive.
  • I only enjoy humiliating a submissive who has positively indicated that this is what he wants.
  • Different people find different things to be humiliating  For instance, small penis humiliation (sph) is common, but not all men feel that (a) it’s a problem, or (b) they want to be humiliated because of it.
  • The pleasure I get from being a Domme is the reaction and response of my subbies.  Hurting someone beyond the boundaries of the scene gives me no pleasure.  There’s a fine line between dominance and abuse. It’s fine, but it’s there.*
  • Dominance and submission is a game, or a dance if you like, and when it’s no longer fun, it’s time to stop.
  • Good communication with your Mistress is crucial if you’re to get what you want out of the relationship.

I hope I was able to reassure the caller I’m talking about, but this is a good example of why it’s recommended you e-mail a Mistress before calling for the first time.  In my case, you can also chat with me on to let me know what you’re looking for.

I’d like to think I offer dominance tempered with compassion.  If you’re not sure what that means, feel free to contact me here at my blog, by e-mail at or through  Or, if you’re feeling brave, simply pick up the phone.

*More on the subject in next week’s blog.


If you’d like to explore this, or some other aspect of femdom, then just call me or, if you’d like to get to know me a little better first, join me for my hosted chat, The Magic Bus, on Mondays at 8pm EST in our interactive chat room at and listen to me at my live YouTube channel. YOU MUST B18+ TO PARTICIPATE.

Skype ID: CatherineSpanks

For an erotic phone session with Empress Catherine, call 800-601-6975. (Must be 18+. Calls are $2.75 per minute, with a 10-minute minimum. Discreetly billed to your credit card.)

16 comments to “Oh Lord, Please Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood…”

  • Animal

    You are clearly just a soul whose intentions are good. b

  • Catherine


  • spotty

    Or catch the Magic Bus, although the other riders might abuse you more than Ms Catherine. Just kidding no one gets abused on the Bus (except Fenris) and he always asked for it while claiming innocence.;)

    You’ll be safe get to interact with Ms Catherine and the rest of us.

    You’ll love it!

  • Catherine

    Thank you spotty – your continued support is much appreciated! 🙂

  • spotty

    You’re welcome Ms Catherine. Now you’re making me blush.☺

  • Mistress Sierra

    Beautifully written, as always, Ms. Catherine! And I must say, that the part abut getting pleasure from the reaction of your submissive resonately loudly with me. I have always told my slaves/sissies/subs that exact same thing. I thoroughly enjoy seeing what sort of reactions I can elicit from someone by saying/doing certain things. And that is only pleasurable within the scope of the boundaries that I have agreed upon with my partner. And those boundaries can vary greatly from person to person and from scene to scene.

  • Ms. Catherine,

    Lovely post!
    I happen to have had a similar conversation with someone recently about this exact subject. Putting it into similar terms, a D/s relationship is like any other, the dance you mention. It’s not necessarily all one sided, as some may think. Well, not the ones I enjoy the most, certainly. See you around the Empire! Cheers

  • “Oh Lord, Please Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood…”

    The above quote applies quite nicely to me. I would posit that your whole take on my behavior is a misunderstanding! Why do I sense doom on the horizon?

    Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’d better find a place to hide.

    Hugs and kisses,

  • Catherine

    You can run but you can’t hide. But you knew that.

  • Catherine

    Yes – boundaries are crucial in the games we like to play! 😉

  • Catherine

    But spotty – I like making you blush…

  • Catherine

    It wouldn’t be nearly as much fun if it were one-sided!

  • tbone

    Hi Mistress Catherine, What about if the submissive totally gets off on being degraded and demeaned because he is at the bottom rung of society both socially and economically. there should be no limit to how badly a slave at the bottom rung society can be treated. Do you put limits on how badly a loser can be treated?

  • Catherine

    I absolutely do! There’s a fine line between domination and abuse but that line is there. A responsible Domme knows the difference and treats her sub with the respect he deserves – regardless of his social and/or economic status. Domination excites me. Abuse does not.

  • tbone

    Mistress Catherine, That does make sense. I hope you would still be interested in talking to me.

  • Catherine

    Yes, of course – perhaps even more so!

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