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The Phone Call

Your hand trembles as you punch in the numbers.  Sweat beads on your forehead.  Your stomach ties itself in several complicated knots. After a moment, a woman’s voice answers.  You’re not quite ready.  You hang up without speaking.

This is Ridiculous!

You tell yourself this is ridiculous; you’re a grown man, you can make a phone call, can’t you?  And anyway, you’ll feel so much better afterwards.  Won’t you?  Afterwards won’t you chide yourself for being so foolish?  For the hundredth time you rehearse what you’re going to say and pick up the phone again.

Bite Your Tongue

This time you tell her what she wants to hear but there’s so much more.  So much more you want to say, need to say.  You bite your tongue to stop the words from spilling out.  And you wait.

After what seems like hours but is really only seconds, a low voice says, “Hello, this is Catherine” and your mouth is dry again,  your brain, scrambled.  Your cock stirs and every thought that formed in your head has now disappeared.  All those carefully rehearsed phrases have gone.  You struggle to form even one word …

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If you’d like to explore this, or some other aspect of femdom, then just call me or, if you’d like to get to know me a little better first, join me for my hosted chat, The Magic Bus, on Sundays at 8pm EST in our interactive chat room. YOU MUST B18+ TO PARTICIPATE!

EMPRESS CATHERINE: 800-601-6975
Skype ID: CatherineSpanks

For an erotic phone session with Empress Catherine, call 800-601-6975. (Must be 18+. Calls are $2.75 per minute, with a 10-minute minimum. Discreetly billed to your credit card.) http://ratemycall.com

The Conversation About Safe Words

I hadn’t intended to write any more about safe words, but it seems like my first two posts generated quite a discussion.  Mistresses and callers have weighed in with their opinions and experiences around the use (or non-use) of safe words.

Why Not Use Safe Words?

Ms. Olivia mentioned in a comment she left me that a caller told her of a Domme that “didn’t like safe words.”  Bloody hell!  Why would she not like safe words? I’d love to have a conversation with her and find out just why she doesn’t like them.  What’s not to like?  They protect the Domme and protect the submissive also.  That’s kinda the point.

Even in Vanilla Play?

Obviously when you’re having a bit of vanilla sex, or even a non-kinky session on the phone (yes, they do happen), then a safe word is not strictly necessary, but have you thought it might be fun?  For instance, if you’re chatting with me on the phone and I introduce a topic you’re not comfortable with, or a concept you don’t like, would it be fun to have a safe word to indicate that you’d like to change the subject without spoiling the mood?  I don’t know.  I’m just asking …

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If you’d like to explore this, or some other aspect of femdom, then just call me or, if you’d like to get to know me a little better first, join me for my hosted chat, The Magic Bus, on Sundays at 8 pm EST in our interactive chat room.  YOU MUST B18+ TO PARTICIPATE!

EMPRESS CATHERINE: 800-601-6975
Skype ID: CatherineSpanks

For an erotic phone session with Empress Catherine, call 800-601-6975. (Must be 18+. Calls are $2.75 per minute, with a 10-minute minimum. Discreetly billed to your credit card.) http://ratemycall.com

More About Safe Words

I don’t think I’d quite finished my thoughts about safe words and why you need them, so in case it’s not completely obvious, a safe word (or phrase) is there to make sure no one gets seriously hurt!  I would say to the submissive, if the dominant partner doesn’t want to use a safe word – find somebody different.  If you’re the dominant partner and your subbie doesn’t want to use a safe word – find another.

Beware the Fantasy!

I know it’s a sort of fantasy for some subbies that they’ll get into the zone, that the Domme will hurl herself upon him and leave him a broken and bloody mess.  Fantasy is one thing but in reality that’s not what you want.  If it really is then you’d better find yourself a different Mistress because as much as I like inflicting pain, I’m not out to cause any real injuries.

Exactly Why You Need One

In case it’s not blindingly obvious, and I can’t assume that it is, there are times when the sub may be whimpering and sobbing and begging me to stop.  If we didn’t have a safe word agreed in advance then I wouldn’t know if he meant it or not.  In the world of D/s, sometimes “No” means, “Please do it some more, only harder!”.  And that, my dear pain freaks, is why you need a safe word.

IF YOU’RE TOO BUSY SPANKING YOURSELF TO READ, JUST CLICK HERE TO LISTEN …

If you’d like to explore this, or some other aspect of femdom, then just call me or, if you’d like to get to know me a little better first, join me for my hosted chat, The Magic Bus, on Sundays at 8pm EST in our interactive chat room.  YOU MUST B18+ TO PARTICIPATE!

EMPRESS CATHERINE: 800-601-6975
Skype ID: CatherineSpanks

For an erotic phone session with Empress Catherine, call 800-601-6975. (Must be 18+. Calls are $2.75 per minute, with a 10-minute minimum. Discreetly billed to your credit card.) http://ratemycall.com

Safe Words

I’ve talked about safe words before so you probably know that I’m all in favour of them when it comes to D/s sessions (and even some rather more vanilla ones).

Disturbing

I was talking to a submissive today about safe words and what he told me was rather disturbing.  We were talking about caning and tawsing (my favourites) and how many strokes should be administered.  I should say at this point that the answer is “it depends”.  It depends on many factors including who’s doing the caning/tawsing, how it’s being administered, etc.  (this might be a good subject for next week’s blog) but I remarked that ultimately the submissive is control because of the safe word.

Trust

This particular submissive told me that he and his wife/Mistress don’t use a safe word, which is what I found disturbing.  Yes, I agree that obviously there MUST be trust between the parties, but no matter how much you trust the Dominant, no matter how you feel that “she will know” when you’re in unbearable pain I urge you to use a safe word.

“It’ll Kill the Mood”?

The attitude of the submissive in question seemed to be that this would “kill the mood”.  I believe people say this about using condoms as well, but life-threatening diseases also tend to kill the mood, so …

Let’s say you decide against using a safe word and the Dominant makes a mistake and you’re seriously injured.  Who then bears the responsibility?  Answers below please.

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If you’d like to explore this, or some other aspect of femdom, then just call me or, if you’d like to get to know me a little better first, join me for my hosted chat, The Magic Bus, on Sundays at 8pm EST in our interactive chat room. YOU MUST B18+ TO PARTICIPATE!

EMPRESS CATHERINE: 800-601-6975
Skype ID: CatherineSpanks

For an erotic phone session with Empress Catherine, call 800-601-6975. (Must be 18+. Calls are $2.75 per minute, with a 10-minute minimum. Discreetly billed to your credit card.) http://ratemycall.com

Take Your Time When You Tell All

Sometimes it takes a real leap of faith to tell me everything.  Sometimes a caller wants me to guess what his secret is (or secrets are – some have many, many secrets) because he can’t quite bring himself to tell me the real reason behind his call.

Too Shy to Say

I think what happens is, the caller has it all straight in his head, knows exactly what he’s going to say, and then as soon as he hears my voice, he forgets.  Or “forgets”.  He doesn’t know how to say the words after all, even though he rehearsed them in advance.

Sometimes They’ll  Hint

For instance, sometimes a caller will want to be tricked or coerced into becoming a sissy; I mean a full-blown, petticoat-wearing, mincing and lisping sissy, but he doesn’t want to say that so instead he’ll ask me if I think he might be more comfortable in women’s panties under his business suit instead of men’s underwear.  Do I think the fabric might be softer, less irritating?  It doesn’t usually take long to get to the truth of the matter.

Are you ready to confess?  To tell me everything?

IF YOU’RE TOO BUSY REHEARSING YOUR SPEECH TO READ, JUST CLICK HERE TO LISTEN …

If you’d like to explore this, or some other aspect of femdom, then just call me or, if you’d like to get to know me a little better first, join me for my hosted chat, The Magic Bus, on Sundays at 8pm EST in our interactive chat room. YOU MUST B18+ TO PARTICIPATE!

EMPRESS CATHERINE: 800-601-6975
Skype ID: CatherineSpanks

For an erotic phone session with Empress Catherine, call 800-601-6975. (Must be 18+. Calls are $2.75 per minute, with a 10-minute minimum. Discreetly billed to your credit card.) http://ratemycall.com